Ek Do Teen Chaar.... Band Karo ye Atyachaar!

A few days back, lying on my bed, like an unemployed whale, with legs stretched out, I got to thinking (When I start to think, a volcano erupts on Jupiter, Sabu and I are from the same clan). My Mother has been harassing me day in and night out to prepare a Bio-Data of sorts, so that she can go ahead and play the matchmaking game (It’s still called a Bio Data, Neither a “CV” nor a “Resume” but a Bio Data in the spheres of Matrimony). I just imagined her browsing seriously through numerous profiles in the Matrimonial Pages of some newspaper like Thook-Matt Times (Sister Concern of Lokmat times) and the only image that came closer to this sight was that of a rag-picker, maybe because until a few years back the only utility that these pages had was to increase the returns on sale from the Raddi waley bhaisahab. To begin with, this whole concept of Shaadi is way beyond me, I mean till the time you aren’t married, there is always an element of “Chase”, excitement, a need and willingness to go an extra mile for the happiness of your partner but the day you are married you become as good as the sofa in the living room or the microwave in the kitchen, basically a general interference in the other one’s life. Making each other miserable becomes the sole agenda of people.

And so I got to thinking, what is it in me anyways that would make anyone who hasn’t met me want to marry me. All this arranged marriage stuff according to me, is based on false information provided by both parties, and jhooth ki buniyaad pe bane huey rishtey kahan tak chalenge? I can certainly put on wonderful faces but kiski majaal hai ki they will accept the real me… So as a challenge I am going to write below, the real true me wala BIO Data, Mummy please redirect all queries here… If the people are ready to bardashtofy this… I still have a chance in the world of Holy Matrimony, otherwise it is Adios Amigos!

So here I Go with absolutely necessary footnotes which should not be missed:

Name: Aru Sharma

Pretty much a straight answer, but don’t ask me the meaning, coz even I don’t know, I have been asked if Aru is a short form for Arundhati, Aruna, Arushi, Arunima etc etc. Sorry but I don’t know what it means, and that’s about it. Some people have tried and miserably failed in Googling the meaning of my name… Now you get to know why I am so pointless… Shuruaat hee aisee thi, naam ka matlab nahi hai meri baton ka matlab kahan se dhoondhtey ho?

Date of Birth: 25 August

I intentionally did not mention the year above, the point not being that I want to hide my age but I want to emphasize my mother’s statement ki tum ab 25 saal ki Ghodi (Female Horse) ho chuki ho… Ab waqt aa chukka hai ki tumhari shaadi ho jaye, tumhari behno ki theek time pe ho gayi thi, duniya waale blah blah blu blu bakar kartey hain.. Ye Wo, pata nahi kya kya?

Time of Birth: 10:10 pm

Kaafi bura samay tha dharti- waasiyon ke liye… aur aagey kya bolun chaachi. Ab mera Sun Sign hai Virgo, and as all virgos I am a selfless person who would do anything to help you. My sun Sign says that I am the breath and light of a better person who thinks, discriminates and displays compassion quietly. I am supposed to be Highly intelligent, possess a clever, sarcastic sense of humor that shows an awareness of myself and others, very observant and have an eye for detail, fussy and nitpicking, a perfectionist and yada yada…

Hobbies: So many… Read the foot note below

My hobbies are day dreaming, cracking sadele thakele PJs, Makkhi Machhar Maarna, Addhi raat tak jage rehna aur bahar jaa ke sadkein naapna, har weekend movie dekhna (Movies might range from Chandni chowk to china, money hai to honey hai to billu barber and one..two..three… I am an avid fan of Govinda and the likes), I love to cook but somehow somebody always feel that I am stuck to Poha and Upma and don’t venture beyond that :P. I love to Buy shoes, more is less for me, on the last count I had like some 40 pairs of footwear, and my thirst for more has still not been quenched.

Habits: Again, can’t be summarized in one line, read below.

My habits, at most instances, have been observed by others rather than me. So my habits, as people say, include, bitching about people, never taking things seriously, jealousy, I live in constant denial, I am too loud and don’t know what to speak where, I get terrible mood swings, I am as Lazzyy as a sloth bear, I am big time filmy and full of Nine Tanks (aka Nau-tanki). My mother says that I Cook well but always create such a mess in the kitchen that the cockroaches and rats of the house consider me their “IshtDev” and have opened up a temple in my honor, and if bubonic plague was to ever spread across the country, it will most certainly be due to my kitchen habits. If you are to ever open my cupboard, you are quite likely to be buried under an avalanche of clothes. But still people manage to bardashtofy me… I am grateful to all my friends for that.

Happiest Moments

Childhood memories: Learning to whistle from pados ke bhaiyyas an then returning the favor by calling his father by various names like “Ganju patel, teri khopdi me tel” and “takley”; Going to the Zoo every night with my father to watch black panthers

Adolescence: Scoring good marks in My board exams, still remember the ice cream that I got as a prize for scoring well in 10^th.

Youth: Getting in Hansraj; The first shoes I got from my first salary; Playing bachda bachda at office; laughing till me cheeks would hurt and I was about to fall off the chair.

Worst Moments:

Childhood Memories: Pulling the Hair of my nursery school teacher as she forced me to come down the slide / Throwing stones at a raging bull and then running across the colony trying to save my ass from getting in line of the bull’s horns

Adolescence: All bad memories are related to maths; My sister thrashing me like a punching bag, because I got 2 out of 5 sums wrong; Always getting border line marks in maths and hiding the report card till the last day; playing “Holly-wood” and “tic tac toe” in maths class and getting scolded for that.

Youth: Being Foolishly Shy and not proclaiming my interest in all my crushes till the age of 23. I missed out on a whole lot of good guys because of this. Some of them know who I am referring to :P

Favorites

Favorite Actors: Harman Baweja, Neil Nitin Mukesh, Rajnikant, Mithun etc. etc.

Favorite Colour: mehroon, margenta, belack, bhai-eat, rani colour

Favourite Proverb: Well Behaved Women rarely make history!

Favorite Food: Chicken Chandamama, Macchi Matondkar, Anda Shivdasani, etc.

Favorite Place: In the house – Bathroom (living in Mumbai with 2 roommates, you pretty soon learn that bathroom is the only place where you will find some solace); Outside the home – baliya, basti, gaunda, hardoi, bahraich ( I have my driver’s licence issued from this place), badaun etc.. etc…

Blood Group: O+ve (sounds like someone is calling me from the behind, “Abey Ooo… Positive ke..., idhar aa”; I have the Universal Donor Blood group, maybe that’s why people resort to “Khoon Choosna” antics with me.

Baaki to Ladki Grah Karya me daksh hai aur kaafi interesting / entertaining hai… Ab koi plss meri maa ko samjhao… Why should I be pushed into this well… Mujhe bhi jeene ka haq hai…

Still if someone is interested please mail me at dimaagmatkhao@gmail.com or kehdokiyejhoothai@yahoo.com

How to Speak Incessantly and Convey Nothing

I often feel that life has been very “Meherbaan” on me and some other people around me, because only we know how to blabber with the other (probably sane) person tying to make something out of the conversation (Note: Usually the expression on this sane person’s face, while talking to the likes of us, range between a.) Mayawati’s name being suggested for marriage to him, to b.) A nuclear test of Pokharan magnitude having found its way to his stomach). So I thought that why should we be so selfish to keep all this “gyaan ka apaar bhandaar” to ourselves and not share it with everyone who aspires to be like us.

So I proudly present a guide on “How to Speak Incessantly and Convey Nothing” version 1.0

About this Guide: This guide is prepared to highlight the features of miscommunication which will be required by the user for a better understanding of the system. The functionalities available in the system are explained in a lucid manner so that it is easy for the reader to get an insight to the Conveying nothing whilst they speak. A step by step approach has been adopted to convey the features in a presentable manner.

Step 1: Exploit the magic in and of words.

While talking to the other person make sure that you are using all the words available in your vocabulary. Do not worry if they are actually relevant to the context or not, just speak you heart out. An Example has been Illustrated below. This is a conversation between A1 & A2, both masters of the art.

A1: Mere bhai! Mandir ke ghante se sar to nahi phoda na? Wo sirf Nirupa Roy ka stunt hai
kitthe hai tu ?

A2: Mai bangalore me hai, tu chandrayan me baith ke moon pe go karting kar raha hai kya
A1: Nahi pluto ke ek dhaabe par ruka hua hoon , plutonium ke pakode bane hai garam garam
saas laga ke kha raha hoon , bahu laga ke nahi.

Instead of using a simple hi, how are you, the conversation was expanded with unnecessary words making it incomprehensible, hence making a very good case study for our cause. Another example could be opening phone conversations with “Hello, Main bol raha hun”, now that’s another story that the response you get from the other end might be “Main bhi main hee bol raha hun”, but that’s irrelevant here.

Another extension of this can be the usage of jargons, use them as often as you can while speaking to anyone in office. For example what is the fun in saying “Market ki watt lagi hui hai”, instead one can use “We are facing turbulent times”, sound sophisticated and yet does not divulge any real emotions about the seriousness of the situation. Various other phrases that I have heard which hold no real meaning include:

“You have lost your Credibility” : I have lost it many times, over stupid mistakes, I am often told that I can no longer be trusted after this blunder, but somehow I regain it every night, and the next day I am at office to lose it yet again

“My Face is my Fortune” : Wonder what this means. If this were true Andrew Symonds would definitely be washing plates at some roadside Dhaba.

“You will find yourself in the Dustbins of the Corporate World” : Ahem, by the way where do these dustbins exist. Will I fit in??

Step 2: Include Unnecessary Detail

When people make a comment on anything about you or your possessions, it is mandatory for you to divulge all information about it. The question was not out of sheer concern but they really are interested in knowing about you. So the next time someone remarks “Nice Shirt”, you should tell him about the cloth quality, the store, the pantone shade, RGB and hue of the color of your shirt, a brief commentary on the factory where it was made and also the fact that you got 3 sachets of ENO free with the shirt. People Love Details!

“Beating about the Bush” is another key word here. If some asks you, what rating did “Gulaal” get? You should tell him that the movie is about politics and If asked, How was your day today? You can answer that the day was sunny. The trick here is to pick a key word from the question and the answer should talk about every aspect of that key word other than the one asked about.

HR Departments often use this tool to give fancy designations for HR Jobs, like the house keeping people are called “Office Hygiene Control Specialist” ; Receptionist becomes “Office Access Control Specialist”, tea boy becomes a “Refreshments Overseer” and a Watchman become “Wealth Distribution Prevention Officer”

Step 3: Dominate

One should always try and dominate conversations and not bother what the other has to say. Our main motive is not to hold a conversation but deliver a lecture. It is absolutely necessary for others to know about our opinions on stem cell research and if there is life beyond earth and also why we find it amusing that when Divya Bharti was singing “Aisee deewanagi Dekhi nahi Kabhi…. Maine” in the movie Deewana, she wasn’t looking at Shahrukh Khan’s face but at his midriff area.

According to our theory a good conversation is about proving that you are always right; you must insist on having the last word to every argument making the conversation go on far too long. Take every comment personally and feel obliged to point every flaw in the other person’s argument. If you come across a neutral topic, steer the conversation to a more controversial territory.

Shakespeare invented Monologues for people like us. If you find yourself dominating 80% of your conversations, Stop for a moment and Ask yourself “Given a Choice, Would I Like to speak to Myself?”. If the answer is no, then you are almost there.

Step 4: Body Language & Non verbal Cues

The other factors that will aid your communication skills are:

Develop a fake accent: Frequently use frazez generated as a result of a fake accent. E.g) "Vot's a mattah, boychik," "ouddamyway”, "yoo betcha," "pahsta" etc. they make whatever you want to say beyond comprehension for any common man born and brought up in the back waters of Dahisar

Body Language: In case the other person gets an opportunity to speak, ensure that you have a matchstick handy to pick your ear, nose, teeth or any other body part you fancy; Folded hands or grinding your teeth is also a good option for consideration. An expression of contempt for what the other person has to say is absolutely necessary.

Non Verbal Communication: Words like “Hmmm”; “…..”; “okies” etc. are good fillers which hold no specific meaning and help in prolonging the conversation towards an undefined destination.

Will give more insight into other steps some other time, I have realized Zabaan Hilana is much easier than ungliyaan chalana.!!

MTV - Fully Faltooo...

Yesterday while browsing through a hundred or more channels that we have (I somehow managed to get the male gene in this aspect, I always want to have the remote and would do nothing with it except change channels), my fingers decided to halt themselves at some random channel called MTV. The channel caught me off guard as it wasn’t playing any re-run of Roadies, or G-Talk, or adverts of the soon to begin 2nd season of Splitsvilla. That reminds me that our friend Vinay Chamaria sneaked into the auditions for Splitsvilla without anyone noticing, and his mischief would not have been caught had MTV decided not to show the feats of the “moorakh junta” who came for auditions and had been rejected.
As soon as I saw his photograph on TV with a rejected stamp smeared all over his face, I called Rahul to confirm if whatever I saw was really true or is this a dream. Since he decided not to pick up my call, I called the culprit in person.
ME: Abey tu TV pe kya kar raha tha?
Vinay: Main to Assam me hun
ME: Arrey maine tujhe TV pe dekha…. Splitsvilla Rejects mein… Jhoothey… Muh kaala karwa ke waapas aa gaya aur kisi ko bola bhi nahi
Vinay: Arre mera CV select hua tha par main agle round me reject ho gaya, aapko kaise pata chala?
ME: TV pe terey muh pe Rejected ka thappa lagaa ke chaar baar tera foto flash kiya. Aur Kaise
To save him from any further embarrassment I did end the call. Poor thing got rejected in the talent round and this made me wonder what is his real talent anyways?
Not wandering away from the subject, venting out all the weird ideas to tarnish the young brain, a VJ was discussing the new trend of naming movies on “Fillumey Sawngs”, prime examples being, Bachna Ae Haseeno, Jaane Tu Ya Jaane Na & Aa Dekhey Zara. They churned out all the brain juices available at MTV, and suggested a few of their own.

• Zara Zara Touch ME – The story of Mika and Rakhi Sawant
• Gutar Gutar – The story of a Slum Pigeon
• Sarkai Liyo Khatiya – A Madhur Bhandarkar production, since he is so fond of making movies on Rooms (Page 3 for Living Room, Chandini Bar for Bar room, so this one will be for the Bedroom)
• Samose me aaloo – Some random theme on Politics
• Tujhko mirchi lagi to main kya karun? – Based on the feud between Salman, Shahrukh and Amir

And I thought why should we stop at songs, why not name movies on the names of Television programs as well. There are some gems waiting to be transformed into movies, and if they are, they will definitely generate some stir in the minds of a few. Remember “Junglee Toofan Tyre Puncture”, “Baingan Raja”, “Captain Vyom”, “Himgiri ke Veer”, “Raaja aur Rancho” and “Kya Banogey Munna?”
I want to support MTV’s cause too. Why should we name only some movies on songs, why not all? Ghajini could have been called “Kabhi bhoola kabhi yaad kiya”; Hello should have been named “Telephone dhun me hansne waali”; Dostana would be made as “Samander se nahake aur bhi namkeen ho gay (oops… Gaye) ho”; Oye lucky maybe christened as “Chura liya hai tumne”; Karzzzz (have I put the right number of “Zs”) can be called “Emotional Attyachhar” and Jodha Akbar would be called “Jumma Chumma De De.”
Meanwhile I got an opportunity to watch another retarded program on MTV called GTalk… I mean if this is the perception at MTV about Girl Talk then I want to quit being a girl. This programme should probably be renamed as ATalk… Auntie Talk that is. The two females on the program, Shambhavi and Anmol continue to blabber about anything under the sun, ranging from how people behave at shaadis to whether Slumdog deserved an Oscar or not. India being a free land gives an opportunity to every worthless creature on earth to voice their opinions about every worthwhile character around and this programme is a prime example. Anyways, which half-wit writes the script for these girls? Meri gully ki aunties ke paas better topics hotey hain discuss karne ke liye… Like kiski ladki kiske saath bhaag gayi, kaun apni biwi ki dhulayi karta hai etc. Atleast these conversations are able to hold some interest for some time and do not lead to a feeling of utter disgust.
What does it really take to be a VJ at MTV? Insanity I guess! I have a 2 year experience of living at Agra. Does that Count? Anyways, I quit being a TV addict a long time ago, but MTV continues to ruin my reality!